Sex and Pregnancy

By Dr. Alagammai Ramanathan | Consultant Obstetric & Gynaecologist
Gleneagles Kota Kinabalu Hospital (Tel: 088-518 888)

Sex is considered a taboo subject especially for Asian community. Both women and men are just too shy to bring the subject up for discussion and hence do not get accurate information on this subject be it.

Most women wait at least six to eight weeks after giving birth to have sex again, according to a new study published in BJOG: An International Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology. It may also be the absolute last thing in your mind especially while you are dealing with nausea and vomiting and later on with the baby, breast feeding and diaper changings through the night.

Most women avoid sex during pregnancy for the fear of losing the baby. It is good to take time and
discuss it with your partner as intimacy is an important part in life. Other women, however, may crave sex in pregnancy. And men, too, are split into different groups regarding sex during pregnancy. Some men may find nothing sexier than a pregnant woman, but other men may be too afraid of hurting the baby. But desire aside, is sex during pregnancy even safe?

Can I have sex during pregnancy?

A lot of times the male partners are more frightened to have sex than the women. In most cases, sex is 100% safe for mom and baby. During the first trimester most women needs to deal with nausea, vomiting and hormonal changes to the body so sex may be the last thing in your mind. During the second trimester women most feel better, there is more lubrication, and have engorgement in the genital area and the tummy is not so rounded yet. This is usually the best time.

As for third trimester the stomach grows and it becomes more tiring, sex may seem less attractive- not to mention physically difficult during the final weeks of pregnancy. There are some exceptions, which your gyny doctor will warn you about. Among other issues is, if you have an incompetent (or weakened) cervix, unexplained bleeding, diagnosed with placenta previa, frequent premature contractions with no known cause or rupture of the amniotic membranes. The best will be to discuss with your gyny doctor along with your partner. It is important for both partners to be there during this session.

Sex can hurt the baby?

Babies are well cushioned. Below the skin is our fat layer, followed by muscles, thick uterine muscles, amniotic fluid only then the baby. As there is water surrounding the baby, it is well cushioned and most movements do not harm the baby. So go ahead! babies are very safe inside the womb and the jolt will not affect the baby.

Can infection occur due to sex?

Well from below the cervix is closed and it has a mucous plug to seal and hence infection does not enter into the cavity. So it is safe. Same goes for swimming, it is ok to swim during pregnancy, the water does not enter the vagina and into the uterus and harm the baby, so there is no need to change your lifestyle. In fact swimming is a good form for exercise during pregnancy.

Can I develop contractions during sex and will that lead to delivery prematurely?

If you start cramping after sex, don’t jump. An hour or two of mild cramps isn’t unusual because both orgasm and the prostaglandins in semen can cause uterine contractions. Increased blood flow and congestion makes blood vessels more fragile on the cervix surface, and they may bleed a bit if
your partner’s penis rubs against the cervix.

However, heavy bleeding warrants call to your gyny because the placenta could be breaking away from the uterus and other causes needs to be looked into for example a cervical growth. But don’t worry - it’s all unlikely to happen. Having an orgasm causes the release of prostaglandins, which can theoretically cause contractions, unfortunately never been completely validated in scientific studies. Does it work? Well...if you’re ready to deliver, a little sex might jump-start the process.

Sexual positions during pregnancy.

This is by far the most difficult question to answer. Well usually what is good and comfortable for the baby is good and comfortable for you. The traditional man-on-top position is more uncomfortable for pregnant women and in the 3rd trimester it is not advisable for women to be flat on the back as the pregnancy can compress the blood vessels and cause a little fall in the blood pressure.

If possible avoid oral sex as bowing air into the vagina may predispose to air embolism though it is very rare.

You can have satisfying sex when pregnancy. You will need to find the most comfortable position, it is the time to explore and experiment together. Communication and openness are the keys to maintaining or improving sexual satisfaction during your pregnancy.

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